It’s Not About Fixing

Hey you! I wanted to check in on everyone and see how you are doing. I’ve been very convicted, and my heart has softened again by reading the book, Triggers. I humbly realize that at times the strong wills of my children trigger a frustration and anger in me that needs to be kept in check. Do you ever feel this way?

I absolutely love and adore my children and am extremely blessed and honored to be their momma. But there are times where their inability to let go or ever give in drives me absolutely insane. There are times in those moments where I want to “fix” them or I just want them to be different. I internally moan and groan, wondering why they can’t just sit still and play with blocks or why they have to question and fight me on everything. Why do I have to be challenged to the max and why does it have to feel so challenging every moment of everyday?! What am I doing wrong?!

They are perfectly made, rather fearfully and wonderfully made. And yes, while they need guidance and direction and proper discipline, so that they don’t end up being hot messes to themselves and those around them, they definitely don’t need me to “fix” them. I realize that without even knowing it, as much as I am their safe place, there are some moments where I’m not because of my unrealistic expectations. And in those times where I’m not their safe place, I help manifest a fight-or-flight response in them that heightens that state of stress and manic behavior, only to exacerbate their little strong wills. Whoa that’s a lot, right!!

So, the lessen in it all is that I need to work on myself. When I’m bothered or annoyed or overwhelmed, my sympathetic nervous system goes into overdrive and I begin to live in that constant fight-or-flight, high alert state of being. And my sweet kiddos feed off of that energy. If you ever feel this way too, don’t stay in it, instead join me in balancing it out with a Yin Yoga Practice. Yin activates our parasympathetic nervous system, promoting that deep state of relaxation. And that’s a wonderful place to access and then lead from when you are faced with the challenges of motherhood and beyond.

So, I pray for patience and perspective AND then I do some yoga! Click the link below to join me.

-Tara xo

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